Arthur Edward Capel CBE (20 December 1881 – 22 December 1919), known as Boy Capel, was an English polo player, possibly best-remembered for being a lover and muse of fashion designer Coco Chanel.
Born in Brighton, Sussex, Capel was the son of Arthur Joseph Capel, a British shipping merchant, and his French-born wife, the former Berthe Andrée A. E. Lorin (1856–1902). He had three sisters: Marie Henriette Teresia Capel, Mary Josephine Lawrence Edith Capel and Berthe Isabelle Susanna Flora Capel. Berthe married Sir Herman Alfred de Stern, Baron Michelham, the son of Herbert Stern, 1st Baron Michelham. His father's elder brother was Monsignor Thomas John Capel, a Roman Catholic priest of the Archdiocese of Westminster who was mired in scandal during the 1880s.
In the obituary of one of Capel's daughters, he was described as "an intellectual, politician, tycoon, polo-player and the dashing lover and sponsor of the fashion designer Coco Chanel". According to that obituary, Capel was a Roman Catholic and his wife had converted to Catholicism in order to marry him, and their two daughters were raised as Roman Catholics. There are hints in biographies of Chanel about Capel's reputed (illegitimate) connections with the Capel Earls of Essex, but no connection has been established.
Capel's father and grandfather were born in Kent. His paternal grandfather served in the Navy, marrying and starting a family in County Waterford, Ireland, during his service. His grandfather joined HM Coastguard, following his navy service, and was posted to the coastguard station at the Sizewell Gap in Suffolk.
An alumnus of Beaumont College, he was a shipping merchant and already an apparently wealthy self-made man by 1909. In the 1919 New Year Honours, Capel, as political assistant secretary to the British Section of the Supreme War Council, Versailles, was appointed Commander of the Order of the British Empire (CBE).
Capel was killed in an automobile accident on 22 December 1919, supposedly en route to a Christmas rendezvous with Chanel. He was buried with full military honours at Fréjus Cathedral on 24 December 1919. A roadside memorial was placed at the site of the accident, consisting of a cross bearing the inscription: "A la mémoire du capitaine Arthur Capel, légion d'Honneur de l'armée britannique, mort accidentellement en cet endroit le 22 décembre 1919." The memorial is said to have been commissioned by Chanel. Twenty-five years after the event, Chanel, then residing in Switzerland, confided to her friend, Paul Morand, "His death was a terrible blow to me. In losing Capel, I lost everything. What followed was not a life of happiness, I have to say."
His affair with Chanel apparently began in 1909, when he became acquainted with the then 26-year-old mistress of his friend ÃÂtienne Balsan. Capel financed Chanel's first shops and his own clothing style, notably his blazers, inspired her creation of the Chanel look. The couple spent time together at fashionable resorts such as Deauville, but he was never faithful to Chanel. Their relationship lasted nine years, and even after Capel married he continued his affair with Chanel until his death.
In 1918, Capel married Diana Wyndham, née Lister (born 7 May 1893âÂÂdied 1983), a daughter of Lord Ribblesdale and widow of Captain Percy Lyulph Wyndham (killed in action, 1914), who was the half-brother of Hugh Grosvenor, 2nd Duke of Westminster. Diana's elder sister, Laura, was married to Lord Lovat, and another sister to Sir Mathew Wilson, 4th Baronet: her aunt Margot Tennant (1864âÂÂ1945), was the second wife of Prime Minister H. H. Asquith. In 1923, after Capel's death, Diana married Vere Fane, 14th Earl of Westmorland.
They had two daughters:
Two years before his death, Capel had met in Paris a brilliant Pole, Józef Retinger, whom he inspired with his talk of federalism and the idea of world government based on an Anglo-French alliance. His ideas were strongly supported by Sir Henry Wilson, whose ADC he had been, and Capel aroused the interest of such statesmen as Aristide Briand, Georges Clemenceau and Woodrow Wilson. He had also promoted his ideas in Vatican diplomatic circles. Retinger helped Capel with his proposed book, The World on the Anvil. The seed had been planted in Retinger's mind and, though transformed, it arguably influenced the creation of the League of Nations and came to fruition decades later in the European Union.